Hey, Mom! Can I Be a Beatnik?

October 30th, 2008

I remember the Beat Generation.  I wanted to be part of it.  I wanted to be beat.  Ouch!  Not like that.  Like the cool kind of beat.  I was only in junior high, but I worked hard at it, wishing I were older so I could be a real beatnik.  Looking back, I can see that I didn’t really know much about the philosophy behind it.  I just knew it was coffee house cool.  My mother let me pretend to be a beatnik.  My matteress was on the floor.  My room was filled with candles, jazz and books of poetry.  I discovered Jack Kerouac’s On the Road.  My friend, Linda, and I would sit in my candle lit room, smoke the forbidden cigarettes and read poetry for hours.  Always taking turns reading out loud and pretending we were in a coffee house.  We discovered a poem called “Onward Christian Roaches.”  We didn’t understand it at all, but latched onto it all the same.  All we had to do was pass each other in the hall at school, say the phrase and crack up.  Another part of being beat was the clothing.  Black pants, black top and black flats.  Black.  Everything was always black.  This was before the great Audrey Hepburn and her signature look.  It was during this time that I discovered bagels.  Not something readily available in small town mid-America.  No one had heard of bagels and there was certainly no place to go buy them.  I learned how to make them.  It was something different.

I always had this thing about being different.  I worked at it.  I don’t have to try anymore.  I still manage to be different, but it’s a good difference. Some call it eccentric.  Some call it hip.  Some just call it being a little different, not run of the mill.  Call it whatever you wish.  I still enjoy that little bit of different. Today all the young people seem to want to be alike.  Even when they strive so hard to be different, they manage to look like scads of others.  Be it goth, pants falling down, whatever.  They still manage to look the same.  How sad to be just like everyone else.  Travel a different road.  It’s taken me on many enjoyable adventures.

Why the World Series?

October 29th, 2008

I just read a New York Times breaking news release about the World Series.  The Tampa Bay Rays did not win, but heck, they actually made it to the series.  That’s a good thing.  But that’s not the thing that puzzles me.  Why do they call these games the World Series?  The world has nothing to do with it.  It’s always U.S. teams playing U.S. teams.  I think there’s still one Canadian team included, but that just makes it North American baseball.  It’s still not the world. Baseball isn’t just played in the United States and Canada.  I know it’s played in Japan, Cuba, Mexico and the Dominican Republic.  I’m sure there are other places.    Wikipedia gives the explanation for it being called the World Series, but I still think it’s rather pretentious of one country to declare themselves champions of the world when the world hasn’t even been invited to participate in the games.

What do you all think of this idea?  Am I way out in left field or did I just hit a home run?

Do Not Love the World

October 26th, 2008

Do not love the world or the things in the world.  The love of the Father is not in those who love the world: for all that is in the world – the desire of the flesh, the desire of the eyes, the pride in riches – comes not from the Father but from the world.  And the world and its desire are passing away, but those who do the will of God live forever.

1 John 2:15-17

Preparing for the Holidays

October 25th, 2008

Take a break from your sewing and spend a couple days baking.  Get the baked goods out of the way early.  You can freeze cookies and pies prior to baking.  You can also freeze them after they’re baked and then when Thanksgiving and Christmas roll around, you’re ahead of the game.  Here’s a few recipes to get you started.  The first is a recipe given to me by Jerry Kackly.  She was unit secretary when I worked ER at Terre Haute Regional Hospital.  The second recipe was given to me by Dennis Sturgeon.  Dennis is a nurse I worked with at Plainfield Correctional Facility.

APPLE BREAD

  • 1 cup salad oil
  • 3 cups flour
  • 2 cups sugar
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 3 eggs
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • 2 tsp vanilla extract
  • 1 cup chopped nuts
  • 2 cups diced apples

Pour mixture into ungreased angel food pan.  Bake in a 350F oven for about 90 minutes or more.  1 hour, 10 minutes worked best for me.

DENNIS’S CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES

  • 2 cups flour
  • 1/4 cup wheat flour
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • 1/4 cup sugar
  • 3/4 cup brown sugar
  • 1 cup vegetable oil or Crisco butter
  • 2 eggs
  • 1 (12 oz) bag sweet chocolate chips
  • 1/2 tsp salt
  • 1 tsp vanilla bourbon extract or regular vanilla extract
  • 1/2 box vanilla instant pudding
  • 1 tsp coco powder

Preheat oven to 350F.  Add all ingredients and mix well.  Make into 2 inch balls and place in freezer over night.  Place 12 balls on an ungreased cookie sheet and bake 12 to 14 minutes or until they are the way you like them. 

Thank you, Dennis and Jerry.  I plan to do an all day mixing up and freezing of cookies and baked goods on Thursday.  It’s a flybaby party.

 

Doctors Ban Births

October 24th, 2008

Well, they would ban home births if they could.  In May the American Medical Association passed a resolution supporting state laws that discourage home births.  The national obstertricians’ group also opposes the practice.  I suppose they are having conniption fits over the latest trend of unassisted childbirth known as freebirthing.  Not even a midwife is invited to this party.

A growing movement of women in the US and in the UK are defying medical advice and choosing to give birth with no drugs, no midwife and absolutely no medical support. Supporters claim it’s how having a baby was always meant to be.  Yep.  Just drop that baby in the field or next to the ironing board, and keep on picking or ironing those shirts.  Not being in a hospital or having any medical professionals present at the birth is not all there is to freebirthing. No drugs means no pain medication.

The Discovery Health Channel premiered a documentory, Freebirthing, on Oct. 21 and will air this program again on Saturday, Oct. 25.  Tune in if you’re among the hardy and learn a little more about this practice.

Same Kind of Different as Me

October 23rd, 2008

It is time to play a Wild Card! Every now and then, a book that I have chosen to read is going to pop up as a FIRST Wild Card Tour. Get dealt into the game! (Just click the button!) Wild Card Tours feature an author and his/her book’s FIRST chapter!

You never know when I might play a wild card on you!

Today’s Wild Card authors are:

 

Ron Hall and Denver Moore

 

and the book:

 

Same Kind of Different as Me

Thomas Nelson (March 11, 2008)

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Ron Hall is an international art dealer whose long list of regular clients includes many celebrity personalities. An MBA graduate of Texas Christian University, he divides his time between Dallas, New York, and his Brazos River ranch near Fort Worth.

Denver Moore currently serves as a volunteer at the Fort Worth Union Gospel Mission. He lives in Dallas, Texas. Today, he is an artist, public speaker, and volunteer for homeless causes. In 2006, as evidence of the complete turn around of his life, the citizens of Fort Worth honored him as “Philanthropist of the Year” for his work with homeless people at the Union Gospel Mission.

Visit the authors’ website.

Product Details:

List Price: $14.99
Paperback: 224 pages
Publisher: Thomas Nelson (March 11, 2008)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 084991910X
ISBN-13: 978-0849919107

AND NOW…THE FIRST CHAPTER:

Well—a poor Lazarus poor as I

When he died he had a home on high . . .

The rich man died and lived so well

When he died he had a home in hell . . .

You better get a home in that Rock, don’t you see?

—NEGRO SPIRITUAL

Denver

Until Miss Debbie, I’d never spoke to no white woman before. Just answered a few questions, maybe—it wadn’t really speakin. And to me, even that was mighty risky since the last time I was fool enough to open my mouth to a white woman, I wound up half-dead and nearly blind.

I was maybe fifteen, sixteen years old, walkin down the red dirt road that passed by the front of the cotton plantation where I lived in Red River Parish, Louisiana. The plantation was big and flat, like a whole lotta farms put together with a bayou snakin all through it. Cypress trees squatted like spiders in the water, which was the color of pale green apples. There was a lotta different fields on that spread, maybe a hundred, two hundred acres each, lined off with hardwood trees, mostly pecans.

Wadn’t too many trees right by the road, though, so when I was walkin that day on my way back from my auntie’s house—she was my grandma’s sister on my daddy’s side—I was right out in the open. Purty soon, I seen this white lady standin by her car, a blue Ford, ’bout a 1950, ’51 model, somethin like that. She was standin there in her hat and her skirt, like maybe she’d been to town. Looked to me like she was tryin to figure out how to fix a flat tire. So I stopped.

“You need some help, ma’am?”

“Yes, thank you,” she said, lookin purty grateful to tell you the truth. “I really do.”

I asked her did she have a jack, she said she did, and that was all we said.

Well, ’bout the time I got the tire fixed, here come three white boys ridin outta the woods on bay horses. They’d been huntin, I think, and they come trottin up and didn’t see me ’cause they was in the road and I was ducked down fixin the tire on the other side of the car. Red dust from the horses’ tracks floated up over me. First, I got still, thinkin I’d wait for em to go on by. Then I decided I didn’t want em to think I was hidin, so I started to stand up. Right then, one of em asked the white lady did she need any help.

“I reckon not!” a redheaded fella with big teeth said when he spotted me. “She’s got a nigger helpin her!”

Another one, dark-haired and kinda weasel-lookin, put one hand on his saddle horn and pushed back his hat with the other. “Boy, what you doin’ botherin this nice lady?”

He wadn’t nothin but a boy hisself, maybe eighteen, nineteen years old. I didn’t say nothin, just looked at him.

“What you lookin’ at, boy?” he said and spat in the dirt.

The other two just laughed. The white lady didn’t say nothin, just looked down at her shoes. ’Cept for the horses chufflin, things got quiet. Like the yella spell before a cyclone. Then the boy closest to me slung a grass rope around my neck, like he was ropin a calf. He jerked it tight, cutting my breath. The noose poked into my neck like burrs, and fear crawled up through my legs into my belly.

I caught a look at all three of them boys, and I remember thinkin none of em was much older’n me. But their eyes was flat and mean.

“We gon’ teach you a lesson about botherin white ladies,” said the one holdin the rope. That was the last thing them boys said to me.

I don’t like to talk much ’bout what happened next, ‘cause I ain’t lookin for no pity party. That’s just how things was in Louisiana in those days. Mississippi, too, I reckon, since a coupla years later, folks started tellin the story about a young colored fella named Emmett Till who got beat till you couldn’t tell who he was no more. He’d whistled at a white woman, and some other good ole boys—seemed like them woods was full of em—didn’t like that one iota. They beat that boy till one a’ his eyeballs fell out, then tied a cotton-gin fan around his neck and throwed him off a bridge into the Tallahatchie River. Folks says if you was to walk across that bridge today, you could still hear that drowned young man cryin out from the water.

There was lots of Emmett Tills, only most of em didn’t make the news. Folks says the bayou in Red River Parish is full to its pea-green brim with the splintery bones of colored folks that white men done fed to the gators for covetin their women, or maybe just lookin cross-eyed. Wadn’t like it happened ever day. But the chance of it, the threat of it, hung over the cotton fields like a ghost.

I worked them fields for nearly thirty years, like a slave, even though slavery had supposably ended when my grandma was just a girl. I had a shack I didn’t own, two pairs a’ overalls I got on credit, a hog, and a outhouse. I worked them fields, plantin and plowin and pickin and givin all the cotton to the Man that owned the land, all without no paycheck. I didn’t even know what a paycheck was.

It might be hard for you to imagine, but I worked like that while the seasons rolled by from the time I was a little bitty boy, all the way past the time that president named Kennedy got shot dead in Dallas.

All them years, there was a freight train that used to roll through Red River Parish on some tracks right out there by Highway 1. Ever day, I’d hear it whistle and moan, and I used to imagine it callin out about the places it could take me . . . like New York City or Detroit, where I heard a colored man could get paid, or California, where I heard nearly everbody that breathed was stackin up paper money like flapjacks. One day, I just got tired a’ bein poor. So I walked out to Highway 1, waited for that train to slow down some, and jumped on it. I didn’t get off till the doors opened up again, which happened to be in Fort Worth, Texas. Now when a black man who can’t read, can’t write, can’t figger, and don’t know how to work nothin but cotton comes to the big city, he don’t have too many of what white folks call “career opportunities.” That’s how come I wound up sleepin on the streets.

I ain’t gon’ sugarcoat it: The streets’ll turn a man nasty. And I had been nasty, homeless, in scrapes with the law, in Angola prison, and homeless again for a lotta years by the time I met Miss Debbie. I want to tell you this about her: She was the skinniest, nosiest, pushiest woman I had ever met, black or white.

She was so pushy, I couldn’t keep her from finding out my name was Denver. She investigated till she found it out on her own. For a long time, I tried to stay completely outta her way. But after a while, Miss Debbie got me to talkin ’bout things I don’t like to talk about and tellin things I ain’t never told nobody—even about them three boys with the rope. Some of them’s the things I’m fixin to tell you.

Mean Mommy

October 22nd, 2008
Today we have another flybaby guest article.  Nova keeps us on our toes with her humor.  Like Nova, I, too, have an aversion to grocery shopping.
“We’re out of food”
 
My family is convinced we are out of food.  Really!!!??  I went shopping on the first of the month, how can we be out of food?  Mind you they are still getting three squares and snacks.  The teenage one who never stops eating greets me as he comes in the door from school, “Whats to eat?”  I respond, “Take out the trash.”  “But I’m STARVING!!!!.”  Being the mean mom that they assure me I am, I tell him, “Eat some fruit.”  How can he not see the big bowl of it on the table? 
 
The kids go in the kitchen, open the fridge, shut the fridge.  Coming out of the kitchen clutching their rotund tummies, they swear they are starving and there is NOTHING to eat in THIS house.  The Dad of the lot, just this morning, went in the kitchen and came back with nothing. He returned to his cave, most likely plotting a McDonald’s raid on his way to work.  He informed me on his way past that he got paid yesterday and I could “get some groceries now”.  I fixed him a bagel with cream cheese, egg and a slice of turkey. (Okay, so it was the last bagel.)  He left for work happy thinking that I would go get groceries today (HAHAHA).
 
I really hate grocery shopping. I guess I’ll make some pacifiers.  I go in my so called empty kitchen/pantry…..hmm…. chocolate chip cookies.  I’ll slice and bake.  They’ll be good for an after school snack.  Spaghetti and chicken casserole for dinner with a recipe from The Pioneer Woman Cooks!  I like her.  I used the chicken last night so I’ll make it with ham this time, and PBJ’s for the two sons, 6 and 7, who don’t like anything. But first I make them taste it.  They are sure I like to see them spit food into the trash can.  Blueberry muffins for their breakfast tomorrow, or do they want hash? Lunches are packed in the fridge already.  I even found a fruit roll up for each of the boys, I like to surprise them sometimes.
 
Probably tomorrow I’ll go to the store.  If I time my trip just right my teenager will be thrilled to carry in the groceries for me after school.  If it weren’t for the fact that my husband thinks the only thing for a Saturday morning breakfast is biscuits and sausage gravy (I’m out of sausage), I could probably put
this off for another week. I”m really sick of sausage gravy.  I think I’ll eat a yogurt instead.  I saw 6 of them in the fridge just now.  Note to self….buy extra sausage next time.
 
Tomorrow they will cry “Where’s all my clothes?? I’ve NOTHING to wear,” because today I’m hiding all the clothes in the dressers.

Open Your Hand

October 19th, 2008

Give liberally and be ungrudging when you do so, for on this account the Lord your God will bless you in all your work and in all that you undertake.  Since there will never cease to be some in need on the earth, I therefore command you, “Open your hand to the poor and needy neighbor in your land.”

Deuteronomy 15:10, 11

Books Full Of Memories

October 18th, 2008

Today we have a guest article by another of my flybaby family members, TW of NJ.  T has recently begun to share her creativity with our group.  We have one day a week when we send out double dog dares to encourage each other as we bless our homes.  This week she conjured up a charming way to enjoy our day based on a Harry Potter theme.  In this article T shares her love of creating scrapbooks and the memories they hold.

It is a Sunday afternoon in Autumn. The breeze gently moves the curtains as the aroma of chicken roasting in the oven wafts through the house. I gather my scrapbook supplies and pictures to make a scrapbook. Scrapbooking is more than creating a page with pictures. For me it is memories. When making a scrapbook I usually have a theme. Any topic can lead to a book. I have been collecting old family wedding pictures, recently finished my daughter’s college scrapbook and am currently gathering material to do my son’s college years. I have a secret agenda for doing these scrapbooks – the children have to provide some of the material. For instance, sending a child off to college guarantees mom and dad are no longer going to be involved in their world on a daily basis. I grab my camera anytime we visit the college campus or go anywhere, for that matter. I constantly bug my kids to send me pictures of activities they experience while away. When making the scrapbook pages I arrange the photos and then of course the embellishments and text must be added. That is when I engage my children for their help. I get them involved by asking what were the highlights of the page for them, I encourage the captions to be their words rather than my thoughts. This has helped me to glimpse things through their eyes, especially their college experiences.  

My daughter enjoys doing these books with me and more times than not if she sees me working on a book she will join in as she did when I created identical mini scrapbooks for each child of a whirlwind trip to Disneyland, California in January. I did not think my son was as interested in the creative process, but he proved me wrong while in Disneyland. I found out that my scrapbook obsession is as important to my kids as it is to me. We were outside of California Adventure where the word California is spelled out in bigger than life sized letters. My son suggested that they climb on the letters for a photo shoot so that we could use those pictures as a title page in our scrapbook. He did not have to ask if there would be a book. He knew it would happen. We spent a fun afternoon with the kids posing on the letters, clowning around, taking pictures and enjoying each other – making memories. So as I said, scrapbooking is memories. The making of the memories and reviewing the memories. It is fun to see the pictures of long lost relatives, but mostly it is fun to live in the moment with the bonus of knowing we will share the good times again every time we pick up one of “Mom’s” scrapbooks.

 

 

 

 

Surviving Widowhood

October 17th, 2008

This is the first of the flybaby guest articles that I told you about in Flybabies Write!  This was written by Vickie H who presents some of the challenges of the first year of widowhood.  I’m proud of her accomplishments and thankful to call her a friend.

When my husband died 10 June, 2007, I went into robot mode.  I knew I had to make phone calls and plan a funeral. This was the easy part.  The funeral showing was not my best. I was there from opening to closing. but could not handle standing or staying in the showing room.   My DMIL and DS are the ones that met people.  People who came for me had to search me out.  The people my husband worked with came early the last day of the showing since they came straight from work. I was not able to even walk over to the group, I actually ran away from the situation, This is the one thing I wish I could go back and handle differently.

I still was in robot mode when the funeral was over.  I knew I had to handle the estate and the financial paper work.  I had no Idea where we were financially or what all the bills consisted of.  My husband’s filing was in the cars and in boxes, so I had to locate the paper work.  It was a very stressful time for me.   The first time I met the lawyer, I felt like I was dirt. The lawyer made me wonder how a 50+ woman could be so clueless?    I had been a stay at home mother since 1992, but I had also been in the military for almost 16 years.  For some reason when the lawyer found out that I had been in the air force, his attitude totally changed.  I know that I was not prepared for the lawyer, but I had no idea of what was to come.  We were buying the farm, but the loan and the paper work was in my husband’s name only.  Since I was not working at the time, so I could not take the loan out in my name.    I knew that the farm was worth twice as much as we owed.  It was bought from his dad and had been in the family over 100 years.  We took a mortgage out to remodel the house to livable condition.  I still have the mortgage, but my daughter can live here until she graduates. 

I try to block out memories of when we did things or how we did them whether good or bad.  There are times things pop up involuntarily.   At the Christmas recital, the high school students. which included my daughter, played songs that my children played in fifth grade for their first Christmas recital. They were not very good in the fifth grade. but they only had their instruments for 2 months at the time of that recital. I automatically turned to my left and started to say, “Did you ever think they would sound so good” but he wasn’t there, I started to cry. 

I miss not having him here to help me make decisions.  I go into robot mode a lot.  It is hard not having him to talk to about what the children are doing.   The hardest thing is his not being here to share the joys that the children have brought,  Joys which include marriage and senior night honoring the band players and parents. The list goes on.   I try to go to the grandchildren’s (step) events.  My husband is not there to experience the joy I see in their faces; joy just because I am there. 

The only thing that pulls me through is knowing God does not give us anything we can’t handle.  I forgot that for a couple of months and went into a deep depression. I was so worried about getting a job and not being able to take off when my family needed me.   I know that I will eventually go to work, but my daughter comes first.  DH provided enough for us until she graduates.   With the way the work environment is for new employees, not being able to miss for anything the first 3 months, I just couldn’t do that.  She has had two surgeries, 2 accidents and school activities I just couldn’t miss these.   God has stepped in everyday. as long as I allow him, to get me through the ups and downs.   Asking for God’s guidance everyday and knowing my husband is also watching, allows me to continue.