I Don’t Hate Home Depot Anymore

May 11th, 2013

First posted July 11, 2008

Hate is actually too strong a word to use for the feelings I’ve had towards Home Depot, but I’ve had no reason to not have an active dislike for them.  The attitude at Home Depot should be that of wanting to assist the customer by providing expertise and knowledge of what is needed to complete the DIY project.  With that type of caring and attitude, these employees would produce happy customers, thereby, ensuring the person’s return to purchase all the goodies needed for all future projects.  I’ve been less than enchanted by the general attitude and ineptitude that I encountered since purchasing my money pit last summer.

I told you about my little bathroom geyser last week. This is the rest of the story.  Handyman Joe picked up the vanity and drop in sink and counter top on Friday and put it in on Monday.  He hit a snag not too far into the job.  My faucets wouldn’t work with the sink.  It was either return the counter top/sink and exchange it or buy new faucets.  New faucets sounded easier than the exchange, so I went for the faucets while Joe kept on with the job.  It was a little enough problem considering that every job the money pit has needed so far turned into more of a problem than initially thought.  We were sure the floor under the old cabinet was ready to cave in or something.  The floor was in good shape, so needing faucets was no big deal.  Except that when I asked the guys in the bathroom goodies department last week, they said, “Don’t worry.  Your faucets will fit.”

I could either whine and get upset or go in and pitch a hissy fit.  If you don’t know what that is, ask your grandmother.  She’ll know.  She’s probably pitched a few in her life.  What I chose to do was go to the service counter, explain the situation and ask if they could put it on the 12 month, no interest plan with my purchases from last week.  The qualifier for that plan is to purchase something $299 or more and put it on your Home Depot card.  Now I want nice faucets since I plan to be looking at these things the rest of my life, but $299?  Get real. Besides, they were for my bathroom and not Consumer Man’s.  Don’t say anything.  I already used up most of my day’s allotment of nice at Home Depot.  But nice faucets don’t mean I’m about to pay anything near $299.

Dawn and Debra in the service department came through for me.  They called the credit card people, explained that I had been misinformed when I made last week’s purchase and now needed to purchase additional supplies.  Now I have an amount below $299 and so far above $100 that I don’t want to think about it added to my 12 month, no interest charge from last week.  I’m busy trying to dig myself out of debt and the money pit is trying to suck me farther into it.  That’s why I won’t charge anything without the no interest clause.  And I pay it off well ahead of time so that nothing odd happens at the end of the time frame.  It’s worked so far with all the things I’ve had to buy from Home Depot and for the central air conditioner.

This story has a moral.  Be nice and ask politely.  Sometimes it helps, but it never hurts to try.

Home Depot, I don’t hate you anymore, but I’m still not in love with you.  I surely do like you a lot more though.

White Nights and Helsinki Hijinks

May 11th, 2013

First posted May 29, 2008

I miss the white nights in Helsinki.  Midsummer eve occurs in the midst of the daylight season.  It’s light night and day, day and night.  I feel a song coming on.  That’s in keeping with the spirit of Midsummer eve.  It’s a magical time of  Finnish traditions, handicrafts, folk dancing and music, food, laughter and street parties at this celebration.  Finally, it’s also warm out, sometimes reaching 70° F so that’s one more thing to celebrate.

Another part of the Helsinki summers is the ice cream.  That happens to be part of the winters as well, but the least bit of warmth in the air and crowds of people are out strolling and eating ice cream.  You can even eat garlic ice cream at the garlic restaurant. And like it sounds, everything is made with garlic. I think the only thing the Finns like better than ice cream are cell phones.  We’ve managed to catch up with the cell phone craze over here, but in the early 90’s about two out of every three Finns had a cell phone to their ear.  They were very adept at walking and talking without missing a beat.  I personally can either concentrate on walking or talking on the phone, but not both.  I like to stop and sit while talking.  When I’m on the move, I’m too busy taking it all in.

In Helsinki there are plenty of places to stop and sit.  There are little parks all over the place.  A lot of them have lilacs. I adore lilacs.  They have such a heavenly fragrance.  That’s one thing I missed after moving south.  Growing up in the Midwest we always had lilac bushes, but nothing like they grow in Helsinki.  Those babies are literally trees.  I used to pick off some of the flowers and hope I wouldn’t get arrested.  It was just too tempting.  I also liked to stop at a flower shop and buy bunches of lily of the valley; another flower that doesn’t like the south.  While we were in Finland, my cabin always had lovely fresh flowers.

If you’ve ever been to Helsinki, you know about Stockmann’s.  It is still my all time favorite department store.  I love Macy’s and Saks, but they don’t hold a candle to Stockmann’s.  The variety found there just makes your mouth water and your wallet cry.  It has all the normal department store type stuff plus a delicatessen, pharmacy, espresso shop, travel bureau, framing service, sauna equipment, custom made shoes, fitness center, and much, much more.  The only thing you can’t buy there is a washcloth.  Washcloths are not standard items in many countries.  I finally was able to locate a washcloth at The Body Shop.  Helsinki was the place where I was introduced to The Body Shop and it’s delights.

Okay, the night here is black instead of white and my body says it’s time to crawl between the sheets.  I could write for a long time about the pleasures of Helsinki, but I think I’ll just have to go to bed and dream about them.  Remind me some time to tell you about my night time snorkeling.

“Pastors’ Wives” iPad Mini Giveaway and Facebook Party with @LisaCullen! {5/23}

May 10th, 2013

Lisa Takeuchi Cullen is celebrating the release of her debut novel, Pastors’ Wives, with an iPad Mini Giveaway and connecting with readers on Facebook on May 23rd

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One winner will receive:

  • An iPad Mini
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Enter today by clicking one of the icons below. But hurry, the giveaway ends on May 22nd. Winner will be announced at the “Pastors’ Wives” Author Chat Party on May 23rd. Connect with Lisa for an evening of book chat, trivia, laughter, and more! Lisa will also be giving away books and fun gift certificates throughout the evening.

So grab your copy of Pastors’ Wives and join Lisa on the evening of May 23rd for a chance to connect and make some new friends. (If you haven’t read the book, don’t let that stop you from coming!)

Don’t miss a moment of the fun; RSVP today. Tell your friends via FACEBOOK or TWITTER and increase your chances of winning. Hope to see you on the 23rd!

Pastors’ Wives

May 10th, 2013
Pastors’ Wives
By Lisa Takeuchi Cullen
What’s it like when the man you married is already married to God? asks Pastors’ Wives, an often surprising yet always emotionally true first novel set in a world most of us know only from the outside.

Lisa Takeuchi Cullen’s debut novel Pastors’ Wives follows three women whose lives converge and intertwine at a Southern evangelical megachurch. Ruthie follows her Wall Street husband from New York to Magnolia, a fictional suburb of Atlanta, when he hears a calling to serve at a megachurch called Greenleaf. Reeling from the death of her mother, Ruthie suffers a crisis of faith—in God, in her marriage, and in herself. Candace is Greenleaf’s “First Lady,” a force of nature who’ll stop at nothing to protect her church and her superstar husband. Ginger, married to Candace’s son, struggles to play dutiful wife and mother while burying her calamitous past. All their roads collide in one chaotic event that exposes their true selves. Inspired by Cullen’s reporting as a staff writer for Time magazine, Pastors’ Wives is a dramatic portrayal of the private lives of pastors’ wives, caught between the demands of faith, marriage, duty, and love.

ISLAND BREEZES

This is an interesting novel of what the lives of preachers’ wives can be like. It focuses on relationships both without the church and without.

The Greenleaf church seems to be more of a business than a worship center. It’s also focused on the idea that any path to God is okay, so this church appears to have lost it’s way spiritually as well.

The three wives are interrelated both by virtue of church family and actual physical family.

All three have marriages that appear to be falling apart. Two of the wives are actually contemplating divorce. In this book, you’re going to read about their struggle to try to balance church life and to keep their marriages together.

I have been a preacher’s wife and I know how it affected my life, but I’ve neither been part of or even attended a mega church. Therefore, I can’t really relate much of my experience with this book. I would hate to think this is what it’s like “backstage” in these churches.

***A special thank you to litfuse for providing a review copy.***

Lisa Takeuchi Cullen was a longtime staff writer for TIME magazine. She now develops TV pilots for production companies and recently sold her first pilot for “The Ordained” to CBS. Born in Japan, Cullen lives in New Jersey with family.

Pick 2 Day 2 Winner

May 10th, 2013

Day two winner is Kaye who picked  A Cowboy at Heart and Unbreakable. Congratulations.

The Shoes Of My Life

May 10th, 2013

First posted May 7, 2008

While writing about the contest at Scribbit in which I entered my  z-coil post, an embryo of another article was conceived.  I began looking back at how shoes tell the story of my life.

Like most other people, I was born barefoot.  I know that at some point shortly after that those cute little feet were forced into a pair of shoes.  No, I don’t remember the restriction of having those little bits of leather on my feet or not being able to freely wiggle my toes.  Instead I had a bronzed beauty of that little shoe.  The laces weren’t even tied before they were bronzed.  Just hanging down unceremoniously.  I would have thought if someone was going through all that trouble, they might have made them look a little neater.  Maybe they were supposed to look like I’d just managed to kick them off.  Exactly why did anyone want to pay to have a pair of old shoes memorialized?  It’s for sure no one else was going to put a foot into that stiff little thing.  I suppose it could have been used for a vase, but we had just barely emerged from the cave age when my foot was that little.  There were no artificial flowers back then and water wouldn’t have done so well in there.  It could have been used as a pencil holder. Did they have pencils back then?  I think they must have.  They didn’t have ballpoints.  It would be years before anyone clicked their Bic.

I remember those little black patent Mary Janes I wore when I was about three.  They were so beautiful and shiny when my mother put them on me.  I don’t know why she expected them to stay that way when my feet just had to run and jump when I was outside.  She used to sigh when she’d say, “You can dress her up, but you can’t take her out.”

The next phase of my life involved the magnificent horse at the shoe store and Buster Brown shoes.  (Tige was in there, too.) That horse was a huge, beautiful beast.  I did my darndest to be patient while I stood to have my feet measured and then sat to have them crammed into countless pairs of shoes until the salesman found the pair that both fit just right and pleased my mother.  Then the magical reward came when the salesman would lift me up and set me on the horse.  This was no little horse like you see on kiddie rides today.  This one was even better than the ones on the merry-go-round.  I would hold the leather reins and pretend like I was a princess riding to my castle.  I was up so high and I saw the world so differently than when I was that little girl standing down on the floor.

Then came the barefoot years.  I didn’t leave those years behind until I was forced to after foot surgery.  This part of my life was interspersed with shoes, but the freedom of kicking off those shoes was wonderful.  I was barefoot in the grass, the mud, the sand, the pebbles, the white rock in the driveway and even the snow.  We lived in a rural setting during the barefoot in the snow years.  The mailbox was on the other side of the street and I saw no reason to put on shoes just to run out and get the mail (especially if Mother wasn’t around to catch me).

Then came the years of rock and roll, American Bandstand, saddle shoes and penny loafers.  Those were important shoe years.  After all, you just didn’t jitterbug barefoot.  You either wore shoes or if you went to a sock hop, you danced in your socks.  Being barefoot didn’t let you slide and get the dance moves right unless you were  at home practicing on the carpet.  Besides, the chaperons would have choked on the punch if you had naked feet.

Ahhh  The Capezio years followed.  I was never one to want to blend in with the crowd during my teen years.  Now it appears that the teen bunch want to all look alike.  I gloried in being different.  I discovered Capezio shoes.  My shoes never looked like those of anyone else during those years.  Somewhere along the line, it appears that Capezio stopped making shoes for street wear.  When I looked them up all I could find is the dance shoes for which they are famous.  Although, I did wear Capezio ballet,  pointe and tap shoes at one point in my life.

As I began to grow into a young woman it was black flats followed by black heels with a brief interlude of black t-straps.  The black flats walked me through my beatnik phase into Friday night movie dates.  Senior year of high school the black flats were de rigour.  We didn’t wear sneakers and jeans to school back in the dark ages.  We couldn’t even believe they began to allow us to wear slacks shortly before graduation.

Then came the sandals and Keds which carried me through most of my days as a wife and young mother.  I put a lot of miles on those.  And the heels were there for church and dress up occasions.  Boots in the winter.  We all loved Nancy Sinatra’s These Boots Were Made For Walking.  We didn’t expect her to have Frank’s vocal cords.  We just loved the part about “They’re gonna walk all over you!.”  I’m sure I wore something besides boots in the cold Midwestern winters, but I don’t remember what.  I try not to think about the winters of my life, past or present.

And then the nursing shoes walked into my life.  Actually it was closer to running as I worked ER, critical care and many other specialties.  They kept me running until I up and ran away to sea.  Still nursing, but in white flats with my day uniform and white heels with my evening uniform.  Eventually the company changed dress uniforms to navy blue.  Once again I was back in black heels and sometimes black flats if I was on call.  Still some running to do at times.

While working at sea, I began setting up ships with my mentor and friend Pat who introduced me to New York City and Birkenstock.  Oh, my.  I’ve found the most comfortable shoes.  I want to live in my Jesus sandals forever.

Then came Italy and my “happy feet shoes.”  I don’t remember why I wasn’t wearing my Birks that day.  I had been in Italy about a week when some friends who had been there longer decided they had to have McDonald’s.  Mickie D sounded good to me, so my daughter, Sue, my cow loving friend and I decided to go McDonald shopping.  This was not an easy thing to do.  We were in Monfalcone and needed to get to Trieste.  So we walked about 30 minutes to the train station, took the train for about 45 minutes and then walked another half hour to the cutest little fast food joint ever.  I don’t remember what I had on my feet, but I do remember how my feet felt.  There was no way I was going to make it back to my ship without being maimed for life.  We found a shoe store nearby and I bought my first pair of sneakers/walking shoes.  Those Pumas made my feet happy for years.  They had to literally fall apart before I would buy another pair of athletic shoes.

Now that I’ve retired from ships, I’m living the laid back (well sort of laid back) Florida lifestyle.  I’m back in the Birks and loving it.  Still had the athletic shoes for work until I found a new love.  New Balance sounded too good to be true, so I tried them on and ended up buying a pair of black and a pair of white.  Out with the athletic shoes.  I’ve found new happy feet shoes.

But I’ve been thinking about those z-coils.  I’ve already purchased some speed laces.  The shoes of my life say I’m fickle, but look more closely and you’ll see a lot of loyalty there, too.  I still love my Birks.

Pick 2 Day 1 Winner

May 9th, 2013

Day one winner is Jo who selected A Farmer’s Daughter and the Don’t Panic cookbooks.  Congratulations.

I’m Still Stuck On This Island!

May 9th, 2013

First posted May 1, 2008

Well, that nap I took lasted all night.  I wanna go home!  I’m achy from that hard ground, I’m dirty and I’m hungry.  At least I’m not still water logged.  Now, where is that blasted book?  Okay, it’s here under some of this worthless brush bed I made.  The book hasn’t helped all that much yet, but at least it’s something.  I guess if I find something to eat I could rub a couple sticks together and make a fire.  The pages ought to help get the fire going a bit.  What a joke!   Me rubbing two sticks together and actually making a fire?  Yeah, sure.  My Girl Scout troop went camping out in hotels.  We were a city bunch.

So what other helpful information is in this book?  How to climb out of a well.  Do people dig wells on deserted islands?  Maybe it’s deserted because people didn’t dig wells and died off from drinking that water that causes diarrhea.  Ummm.  Maybe I’d better not let my mind wander there.  Here’s a section on how to navigate a minefield.  Please tell me these people didn’t plant a minefield before they died off.  Maybe they forgot where they planted the mines and blew themselves off this chunk of land.  It really doesn’t look as if there’s been a bunch of blasts going off here.  In any case, let’s see what it says.  Keep my eyes on my feet.  Freeze.  Freeze?  It’s too hot here to freeze.  As far as not moving, I haven’t even started walking yet.  And if I don’t like what I see, walk backwards.  Run that by me again.  If I don’t like what I see, walk backwards.  That way I just won’t see myself stepping on that stuff that’s going to blast me right off this island.  Let’s just pretend that there are no mines here.  I think we’ll ignore the section about falling through the ice and needing to survive in frigid water.  We’ll worry about that when hell freezes over.

I’m still hungry and thirsty.  Here we go.  How to find water on a deserted island.  Maybe this little book is good for something after all.  Collect rainwater in anything handy, such as a bowl, plate or helmet.  Give me a break.  I’m not going to go searching for a chunk of a downed tree to hollow out a bowl with some rock!  Collect dew.  This could work.  Tie rags or tufts of fine grass around my ankles and walk around.  No rags, but I can use my socks. Then wring them out into  that container I don’t have.  I don’t think so.  I can just open my mouth and drink, as long as I hold my breath and don’t think about those dirty, smelly socks.  Except now the dew is dried up from the sun glaring down.  Catch a fish (bare handed out of the rushing current that landed me here) and suck the eyes.  I don’t think so!  Look for bird droppings.  I’m not even going to read that section.  My imagination is running wild and I don’t want to know.  I’m not that thirsty yet.  Maybe I’ll just find that river water that’s going to give me diarrhea.  Now it’s telling me to find that banana tree that I couldn’t find before I took my nap.  If I ever find that water I know how to purify it – not that I have anything that I need to do it.  I’m still hungry and I don’t feel like fishing without a pole or building animal traps.  I need something now, not next week.

Come on, let’s go tramping through this jungle and see if we can find some fruit or something.  I’m tossing this book and leaving it to rot.  I just don’t want to read any more scary novels.  If I want to take a book on my next trip, it’s going to be something tame like learn how to speak Finnish in three easy lessons.  Hey, this isn’t so difficult walking through the jungle.  It’s almost like a little path.  I certainly hope it’s not a lion path or something.  Look.  The jungle ended already.  We’re almost out.  Oh, no!  What’s that?  After all I’ve gone through, I can’t believe what I’m seeing.  That’s a  little hut over there.  I wonder if it’s deserted.  Are there people there?  Are they friendly?  And that?  It’s a boat.  There’s a river or something over there.  Let’s go.  Hurry!  I want to catch that boat before they leave me  stranded here.  They’re coming back.  They saw me.  I don’t believe this.  Those people look like a bunch of tourists.  ”Yes, of course it was a bad storm yesterday.  Where am I?  Who are you?  A tour director?  Where am I?  One of the Florida Keys?  Hey, I’ve been to Key West.  It doesn’t look anything like this!”  Marquesas Keys?  I’ve never heard of those.  Ummm  This tour brochure says they’re 30 miles west of Key West.  Overgrown by mangrove.  That explains the jungle.  They are protected as part of the Key West National Wildlife Refuge. The Marquesas were used for target practice by the military as recent as 1980.  Shit!  I could’ve been walking through a minefield!

Pick 2 Winners

May 8th, 2013

I will start picking winners tomorrow, and will pick one every day for the next seven days. You still have time to enter all the giveaways starting with day 1. I’ll pick that winner at midnight.

Good Cop, Bad Cop

May 8th, 2013

First posted April 25, 2008

Well, not exactly.  How about good doctor, bad doctor?  I’m not talking about clinical skills.  I’m talking about how the doctor treats his patient as a person.  Two years ago when I was working at a relatively new job I had several high blood pressure readings in a row and decided I should see a doctor and have it checked out more thoroughly.  I had moved and not yet found a family doctor.  I was in a bit of a quandary as I didn’t want to put off this check up.  I thought about seeing the medical director of the hospice where I was employed, but was still hesitant.  I had sat in on a meeting where he was present.  During the entire meeting he was playing with his palm pilot or whatever it was instead of paying attention.  In spite of this, I figured he must be a good doctor or he wouldn’t be our medical director and went ahead and made an appointment.  I was told that this would just be a focus appointment, meaning that only the blood pressure would be addressed and not anything else.  That was fine with me, so I showed up at the appointed time.

I sat and waited a long time, watching others go in and out.  I had been waiting quite awhile before some of these people even showed up, and of course, drug reps were ushered in right away.  That in itself was irritating as I knew they were there to give the doc free samples of their newest and most expensive drugs, thereby, encouraging him to give these out and write prescriptions for them rather than something that had been around, was now generic and, therefore, cheaper and probably worked better than the new, unproven medications the reps were pushing.

Finally I was allowed to go sit in the exam room and wait.  When Dr. K showed up, he spent 15 minutes with me.  Five minutes were spent checking my B/P, eyes, ears, nose and throat.  Five more were spent with him asking me some questions, giving me grief with his smart alec attitude and continuing to get things mixed up that I had told him.  I had also given him a copy of the vitamins and supplements that I took.  He kept talking about my homeopathic medications.  Shouldn’t a doctor know the difference between vitamins, supplements and homeopathic medications?  The doctor then proceeded to write me a prescription for one of the new medications and got really pissed off when I requested that we try one of the old, proven meds and lifestyle changes before going with the hard hitters. I think the fact that I’m a nurse and interested in participating in my own health care irritated him as well. The last five minutes proved to be the real topper.  This man did a big no no as far as medical etiquette and bedside manners are concerned.  He stood in front of me and dictated my history and physical, getting a lot of it wrong.  I corrected him several times and then just gave up.  This man, who is a general practitioner labeled me in the H & P as having a psychiatric condition known as obsessive compulsive disorder.  Talk about nasty and vengeful.  I was working as a hospice nurse, but one of my past specialties was mental health.

I have to say that this man had the attitude of a surgeon.  Now, I think surgeons are great people and do a wonderful job, but all you nurses out there know what I mean.  It’s sort of a “god syndrome.”  They literally hold a person’s life in their hands while in surgery.  Maybe the reason for Dr. K’s attitude was that he was in charge of a person’s dying.  Or maybe he is just a jerk.

But when they’re good, they’re really good!  It took me another year before I would go see another doctor.  I got my prescriptions refilled at a doc in the box clinic and then after moving, my weekend docs at a mental health facility where I worked, gave me refills.  Eventually, I decided to bite the bullet and make another doctor’s appointment.  I had moved back to a city where I used to live and tried to make an appointment with my former doc.  I always got an answering machine when I called and would leave messages which would go unanswered.  The last time I called, the number was no longer in service.  She must have retired.  So then I did what most people would do and checked to see what local doctors  were covered under my health insurance.  That was one long list.  How did I narrow it down? I prefer osteopathic physicians, so that helped.  From there I just picked the first one on the list that was close to where I live and then prayed a lot.  I made the appointment, showed up on time and held my breath.

I was shown into the exam room on time, seen by a resident who was working with Dr. G, and then seen by Dr. G himself – all within a reasonable amount of time.  I had a thorough history and physical taken, followed by a very thorough physical exam.  Then the big surprise.

Dr. G actually sat down to talk to me and told me that he liked  having nurses as patients because they ask questions, give input and want to take charge of their own health.  Whooooo!  I found a doctor who wants to work with me as a team member to improve my health.  I can’t say enough good things about Dr. G and his staff.  We do work as a team.  Dr. G cared enough about my health to discover that I’m now a diabetic and have sleep apnea.  Because of this and his treatment for it, I now have more energy, better health and a zest for life.  And about that treatment.  He agrees that the old tried and true medications should be used first and we’re working on lifestyle changes.  I now exercise more (still need to improve that) and have lost 52 pounds (still need to work on that).  I enjoy going to the doctor and he enjoys having me as his patient.  He even encourages me when I bring him research that I’ve happened on and asks about where’s his articles when I forget to bring them in.  Now, how’s that for a good doc?